Juan comes to you and relates the situation and asks you "What should I do?" What advice would you give to Juan?
Christina finds you later and she tells you about the situation. She asks you, "What should I do?" What advice would you give to Christina?
Dating may involve difficult and painful experiences. If you have worked at developing healthy relationship skills, hopefully you can minimize difficulty and painfulness. Misunderstandings and thoughtlessness may make a person feel bad, but such conflicts can be resolved in a way that allows both people to express themselves.
While brief, we have looked at relationships over the last four weeks. In Next Time I Fall in Love, Chap Clark says that no matter how great a relationship is, it can always get better. One way to do this is to sit down periodically with the person you are dating and honestly evaluate the relationship - what is great, what is so-so, and what needs to change. This can be scary, but every time you talk honestly about your relationship with the other person, things can only get better. Honesty is the best gift you can give each other.
Read Psalm 139:1-10, 13-14. God knows us honestly and believes that we matter. In the eyes of the One who made us, we are beautiful and precious. Once we grasp this truth, we cannot help but treat others, especially those we care about in a romantic way, with the same sense of care. We are all valuable.
With this in mind, what advice would you give Christina and Juan?
1 Dating scenario by the Hazelden Foundation, 2004.